There's nothing dull about safe sex, particularly when it comes to the vast selection of condom types offered by the protection market. This is good news, as safe sex is a vital component of penis health, as is a vibrant and flourishing sex life. Condoms come in different sizes and shapes, and some have special features. Some of a couple's decision-making process about which protection to opt for will be based on safety considerations, and others on preference. This guide to the three S's - sizes, shapes and special features - will help men get their bearings in the condom aisle, and both partners' rocks off in the bedroom.
Sizes
Choosing the appropriate condom size for a man's penis is important both for comfort and safety. Too much or too little room can lead to slippage and/or breaking. There are condom size charts men can use that require them to measure the circumference of their members and match this up with a condom size.
As a general rule of thumb, men with penises with a circumference under 4.7" may want to opt for smaller varieties. A girth between 4.7" and 5.1" will likely be best accommodated by regular condoms. A circumference beyond 5.1" usually merits larger condoms.
Shapes
The shape of a man's condom is also worth considering, both for safety and for fun. The following are standard shapes:
- Straight: Straight condoms feature a uniform width up to the rounded end, which contains a reservoir tip for catching semen (this should be pinched when the condom is put on to avoid an air bubble that may burst during intercourse). These work for most people, but may not be comfortable or secure for men whose penis girth varies notably from shaft to head.
- Flared: This condom variety has more headroom, tapering narrower down to the base of the shaft. Some men find the extra room at the top more comfortable; these may also be best for men with large heads and shafts that narrow toward the base.
- Snug: The snug fit condom contours around the head of the member, then tapers to fit nice and snug underneath it along the shaft. Men on the smaller end of the spectrum may find these ideal.
Special Features
Condoms come with several features that couples can consider trying out. These include:
- Lubricant: One of the main causes of condom breakage is lack of adequate lubrication. While some couples enjoy putting lube on separately, others like to have it included on the condom itself.
- Spermicide: Spermicide is a chemical that kills sperm, and may boost a condom's ability to prevent pregnancy. On the downside, it can irritate the penis and/or the vagina.
- Texture: Some condoms come equipped with special textures like ribs, twists or studs that manufacturers claim will boost her pleasure, though there's no hard science supporting this claim. Couples should discuss whether these are something they'd like to experiment with.
- Warming/tingling additives: Some couples like to add some heat to the sex act, literally. While warming or tingling ingredients can certainly create a new experience, they also have the potential to irritate the sensitive sensual skin of both men and women.
Condoms aren't the only valuable products a man can place on his pecker. Some men find a penis health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) to be a beneficial addition to their care regimens. A cream packed with essential nutrients like L-arginine and vitamin C can help promote healthy circulation, supporting performance ability. Also look for Shea butter and vitamin E on the ingredient list - these moisturizers will restore softness and hydration to penile skin that has seen its fair share of friction throughout a night of vigorous use.
Selasa, 28 November 2017
Jumat, 10 November 2017
Spirituality and Sex - How to Do Away With False Guilt
Sex can be spiritual, though it's all too common to forget and feel guilty about sex, and much of the guilt is hidden in your subconscious mind. We'd like to help you escape the baseless sexual guilt trap.
It's detrimental to your emotional, spiritual, and mental health to possess baseless guilt about sex. Additionally, false fear and guilt about sex prohibits you from experiencing the spiritual and healing benefits of good sex.
How to Escape Feeling Guilty About Sex
First, it's important to understand that, from a spiritual perspective, there's nothing wrong with non-adulterous sex between consenting, married or single adults of the same or opposite gender. Your conscious mind may believe this, but your unconscious may not.
The most common source of sexual guilt is the notion that it's a sin. Cultural biases and fears, sometimes stemming from religious conditioning, can be very difficult to shed.
You may be surprised to learn that sex wasn't considered a sin in ancient times. It's only in the last 2,000 years that joy and spirituality were separated from sex and replaced with darkness and fear.
Vicki León, author of The Joy of Sexus: Lust, Love, and Longing in the Ancient World, writes the following:
"First of all, neither the Greeks nor the Romans thought about sinfulness and in the Judeo-Christian sense. The idea of mankind's fall from grace never occurred to them. Even women, despite having to endure a lifetime of domineering males, would laugh incredulously at the thought of sex being a sin. Adultery could be a crime, as could rape, but for reasons other than sinfulness. A tangle of laws eventually would seek - not always successfully - to control some sexual behaviors and criminalize others. In their polytheistic societies that we call pagan, there were no churches or congregations as we know them, no priests to lecture or act as middlemen to a deity. They believed in a celestial place, jam-packed with gods and goddesses who were divine yet flawed. In them, Greeks and Romans saw themselves, at once perfect and imperfect. Some of their supreme beings were lifelong virgins: Artemis, Athena, and Vesta. Other deities were sex addicts, troublemakers who rarely paid a penalty for their misbehavior."
Unfortunately, negative impressions about sex still permeate the collective unconscious today. The prevalence of "slut shaming," aimed at people who dress provocatively, is an example of this. Madonna was heavily criticized recently (also an example of ageism) after she appeared topless in this month's Interview Magazine. Another illustration of our sex-shamed society includes couples happily participating in open relationships being vilified by so many intolerant people who insist there's only one acceptable relationship model.
One may tend to believe that the twenty-first century has brought about a sexual awakening and more sexual freedom. Perhaps in some countries, but that doesn't seem to be the case everywhere, especially when considering how sex is still severely stigmatized in many cultures around the world.
Ways to overcome innate sexual guilt, aside from first consciously accepting that consensual sex between adults is perfectly acceptable, include the following: subconscious positive programming, including MP3 hypnosis audios; past life regression MP3s to find the root cause of sexual guilt; daily meditation to detach from hidden fears; replacing feelings of guilt with gratitude for the opportunity to enjoy sex; completely embracing safe sex; and of course the regular practice of being sexually active with your lover or lovers, while simultaneously affirming that it's not only all right, but for your highest good.
It's okay to have fallen into the sexual guilt trap, but now you realize that it's not for your highest good, and you can escape it using the advice above. Once you do, you'll allow yourself the physical, mental, and emotional benefits. You can also advance your spiritual awareness through intimacy; connecting with your lover can be a spiritual practice similar to meditation.
It's detrimental to your emotional, spiritual, and mental health to possess baseless guilt about sex. Additionally, false fear and guilt about sex prohibits you from experiencing the spiritual and healing benefits of good sex.
How to Escape Feeling Guilty About Sex
First, it's important to understand that, from a spiritual perspective, there's nothing wrong with non-adulterous sex between consenting, married or single adults of the same or opposite gender. Your conscious mind may believe this, but your unconscious may not.
The most common source of sexual guilt is the notion that it's a sin. Cultural biases and fears, sometimes stemming from religious conditioning, can be very difficult to shed.
You may be surprised to learn that sex wasn't considered a sin in ancient times. It's only in the last 2,000 years that joy and spirituality were separated from sex and replaced with darkness and fear.
Vicki León, author of The Joy of Sexus: Lust, Love, and Longing in the Ancient World, writes the following:
"First of all, neither the Greeks nor the Romans thought about sinfulness and in the Judeo-Christian sense. The idea of mankind's fall from grace never occurred to them. Even women, despite having to endure a lifetime of domineering males, would laugh incredulously at the thought of sex being a sin. Adultery could be a crime, as could rape, but for reasons other than sinfulness. A tangle of laws eventually would seek - not always successfully - to control some sexual behaviors and criminalize others. In their polytheistic societies that we call pagan, there were no churches or congregations as we know them, no priests to lecture or act as middlemen to a deity. They believed in a celestial place, jam-packed with gods and goddesses who were divine yet flawed. In them, Greeks and Romans saw themselves, at once perfect and imperfect. Some of their supreme beings were lifelong virgins: Artemis, Athena, and Vesta. Other deities were sex addicts, troublemakers who rarely paid a penalty for their misbehavior."
Unfortunately, negative impressions about sex still permeate the collective unconscious today. The prevalence of "slut shaming," aimed at people who dress provocatively, is an example of this. Madonna was heavily criticized recently (also an example of ageism) after she appeared topless in this month's Interview Magazine. Another illustration of our sex-shamed society includes couples happily participating in open relationships being vilified by so many intolerant people who insist there's only one acceptable relationship model.
One may tend to believe that the twenty-first century has brought about a sexual awakening and more sexual freedom. Perhaps in some countries, but that doesn't seem to be the case everywhere, especially when considering how sex is still severely stigmatized in many cultures around the world.
Ways to overcome innate sexual guilt, aside from first consciously accepting that consensual sex between adults is perfectly acceptable, include the following: subconscious positive programming, including MP3 hypnosis audios; past life regression MP3s to find the root cause of sexual guilt; daily meditation to detach from hidden fears; replacing feelings of guilt with gratitude for the opportunity to enjoy sex; completely embracing safe sex; and of course the regular practice of being sexually active with your lover or lovers, while simultaneously affirming that it's not only all right, but for your highest good.
It's okay to have fallen into the sexual guilt trap, but now you realize that it's not for your highest good, and you can escape it using the advice above. Once you do, you'll allow yourself the physical, mental, and emotional benefits. You can also advance your spiritual awareness through intimacy; connecting with your lover can be a spiritual practice similar to meditation.
Kamis, 26 Oktober 2017
Sexual Dysfunction: Conditions With Psychological Causes
There are several causes of sexual dysfunction in men, the many symptoms of which include lack of desire, inability to orgasm, delayed orgasm, premature ejaculation and inability to become erect. Often, the cause is physical in nature; a host of underlying health conditions can negatively impact the penis's ability to do its thing. Doctors generally seek out a physical source for sexual dysfunction first. If none is identified, they will likely begin considering potential psychological issues. Since sexual activity is an important part of both overall well-being for most men and of penis health, it's important for those affected with sexual dysfunction to seek treatment.
Some common psychological factors that may impair sexual function include depression, anxiety and stress. But there are other causes potentially related to past trauma or relationship troubles that men should be aware of. Below, men can learn about two forms of sexual dysfunction that may be rooted in the past or related to present fears that need to be addressed.
Male Orgasmic Disorder
Men with male orgasmic disorder either take a very long time to achieve orgasm during sexual contact or are unable to altogether. In order to count as a psychological disorder, this sexual dysfunction has to cause a man significant distress. Many men with the condition feel anxiety, guilt or shame around their orgasm difficulties.
Male orgasmic disorder, when psychologically rooted, can be caused by common depression, anxiety and stress. Other precipitating psychological factors include:
- Relationship issues with a particular sexual partner
- Past trauma involving sex, such as rape or sexual abuse
- An upbringing heavy on sexual taboos
- Fear of getting a partner pregnant
- Fear of catching a sexually transmitted infection
Treating these deep-rooted problems is best done with the help of a trained therapist. Relationship counseling may help couples who are having issues. A therapist can also help men work through fears, guilt and shame that may exist around sex.
Another method of treatment involves a form of sex therapy in which a couple takes steps toward release during intercourse. The couple starts by working toward the man achieving orgasm with his partner from non-penetration; then, they work on his ability to release on the outside of the vagina (or buttocks); finally, they work up to finishing internally.
Sexual Aversion Disorder
Sexual aversion disorder is more than a lack of desire to have sex. The latter can occur for several reasons, from low levels of testosterone to simply being tired. When a man has sexual aversion disorder, his lack of desire is bound up with negative emotions about genital contact, such as disgust, shame or guilt. Men with the condition may suffer panic attacks or high levels of anxiety when in sexual situations.
This condition may be a lifelong phenomenon or may occur after a traumatic incident. It might manifest consistently with all potential sexual partners, or be limited to one or some. The psychological causes of sexual aversion disorder are mostly the same as those for male orgasmic disorder: relationship problems, cultural taboos and traumatic events such as sexual abuse. Psychotherapy and couples counseling are usual methods of treatment.
Getting in Touch with the Penis
While pursuing therapy, men with one of the above conditions might want to take some time to get in touch with their penises in an effort to build comfort with their bodies. At the same time, they can improve overall organ health by applying a penis health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil). While certainly not a treatment for deep-seated psychological issues around sex, applying the lotion every day can get a man used to regular touch. The product also contains Shea butter and vitamin E, which keep the skin smooth and soft, making it more inviting.
Some common psychological factors that may impair sexual function include depression, anxiety and stress. But there are other causes potentially related to past trauma or relationship troubles that men should be aware of. Below, men can learn about two forms of sexual dysfunction that may be rooted in the past or related to present fears that need to be addressed.
Male Orgasmic Disorder
Men with male orgasmic disorder either take a very long time to achieve orgasm during sexual contact or are unable to altogether. In order to count as a psychological disorder, this sexual dysfunction has to cause a man significant distress. Many men with the condition feel anxiety, guilt or shame around their orgasm difficulties.
Male orgasmic disorder, when psychologically rooted, can be caused by common depression, anxiety and stress. Other precipitating psychological factors include:
- Relationship issues with a particular sexual partner
- Past trauma involving sex, such as rape or sexual abuse
- An upbringing heavy on sexual taboos
- Fear of getting a partner pregnant
- Fear of catching a sexually transmitted infection
Treating these deep-rooted problems is best done with the help of a trained therapist. Relationship counseling may help couples who are having issues. A therapist can also help men work through fears, guilt and shame that may exist around sex.
Another method of treatment involves a form of sex therapy in which a couple takes steps toward release during intercourse. The couple starts by working toward the man achieving orgasm with his partner from non-penetration; then, they work on his ability to release on the outside of the vagina (or buttocks); finally, they work up to finishing internally.
Sexual Aversion Disorder
Sexual aversion disorder is more than a lack of desire to have sex. The latter can occur for several reasons, from low levels of testosterone to simply being tired. When a man has sexual aversion disorder, his lack of desire is bound up with negative emotions about genital contact, such as disgust, shame or guilt. Men with the condition may suffer panic attacks or high levels of anxiety when in sexual situations.
This condition may be a lifelong phenomenon or may occur after a traumatic incident. It might manifest consistently with all potential sexual partners, or be limited to one or some. The psychological causes of sexual aversion disorder are mostly the same as those for male orgasmic disorder: relationship problems, cultural taboos and traumatic events such as sexual abuse. Psychotherapy and couples counseling are usual methods of treatment.
Getting in Touch with the Penis
While pursuing therapy, men with one of the above conditions might want to take some time to get in touch with their penises in an effort to build comfort with their bodies. At the same time, they can improve overall organ health by applying a penis health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil). While certainly not a treatment for deep-seated psychological issues around sex, applying the lotion every day can get a man used to regular touch. The product also contains Shea butter and vitamin E, which keep the skin smooth and soft, making it more inviting.
Jumat, 13 Oktober 2017
Masturbation Mood: Songs About Self-Pleasuring
Masturbation is a popular entertainment option the world over, so it's perhaps not surprising that this activity has been inspirational to a number of musical performers. Songs about self-love are not as numerous as those about romantic, profane or even brotherly love, but it's a suitable subject for musical exploration. As such, these songs can provide an appropriate soundtrack for a man's masturbatory activities. Regular masturbation requires appropriate penis care, of course, so all are advised to not get too carried away by the beat of the music and start beating the meat too fiercely.
Beginnings
No one knows who wrote the first song about masturbation. Was it a caveman made overly excited at the sight of his neighbor's new tight tiger skin thong? Did the ancient Greeks write them for their infamous satyr plays, which featured men with gigantic prosthetic penises? Did medieval troubadours create tunes about the lonely pleasures of the road?
The songs
Whatever the case, the advent of rock music opened up the door for songs that were more frankly sexual than the pop music of previous generations. There have since been dozens of songs that have touched on, mentioned, or been primarily concerned with masturbation. A few of the more noteworthy examples include:
- "My Ding-a-Ling." Early R&B rocker Chuck Berry had numerous songs that hit number one on the R&B charts, including "Maybelline" and "Johnny B. Goode." But only the novelty tune "My Ding-a-Ling" made it to the very top of the pop charts. With lyrics about "You'd catch me playing with my ding-a-ling," it's hard to argue that this song is a paean to self-pleasuring.
- "Pictures of Lily." Pete Townshend's lyrics don't specifically mention playing with oneself, but he has admitted in interviews that this is the real subject. The Who's recording makes it clear that the pictures of this girl helped the singer sleep at night from the relaxing effects of shooting a load off.
- "Dancing with Myself." Billy Idol could simply be singing about solo dancing - but when he talks about waiting so long for his "love vibration," is there any doubt what the real activity is?
- "Captain Jack." Billy Joel may be an incredibly successful singer-songwriter, but even he had lonely teen-age years when, as he blatantly says, "you just sit at home and masturbate." And why not? A release is a release.
- "Longview." Green Day gained widespread attention with this song, which discusses the amount of masturbating a guy does when he's got nothing better to do.
- "Girls of Porn." One of the raunchiest songs on this list, the Mr. Bungle contribution is all about how a guy can't keep his hands off his junk when he's tempted by pictures of naked women posing suggestively. Not many guys would disagree.
- "Turning Japanese." This incredibly catchy new wave ditty makes the rather insulting and insensitive equation between masturbation and being Japanese. But the nervous energy that runs through the song captures the feeling of a guy manipulating his organ in search of self-satisfaction.
By the way, in case anyone suspects that only male performers sing about self-pleasuring, don't forget Cindy Lauper's "She Bop" (and its message about messing with the danger zone) or the DiVinyls' more blatant "I Touch Myself."
The list of masturbation songs could go on quite a bit longer, with the likes of "The Stroke" by Billy Squier or "Orgasm Addict" by the Buzzcocks. Whatever songs a guy may use to influence his solo outings, he needs to make sure he is using a first-class penis health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) to keep his tool in good health. It's essential that the crème contains a neuroprotective ingredient such as acetyl L-carnitine to help with peripheral nerve damage that may occur from overuse (or over-aggressive use) while masturbating. The best crème will also include vitamin D, which has been proven effective at fighting diseases while enabling cell functionality - a dual function that is vital to penis health.
Beginnings
No one knows who wrote the first song about masturbation. Was it a caveman made overly excited at the sight of his neighbor's new tight tiger skin thong? Did the ancient Greeks write them for their infamous satyr plays, which featured men with gigantic prosthetic penises? Did medieval troubadours create tunes about the lonely pleasures of the road?
The songs
Whatever the case, the advent of rock music opened up the door for songs that were more frankly sexual than the pop music of previous generations. There have since been dozens of songs that have touched on, mentioned, or been primarily concerned with masturbation. A few of the more noteworthy examples include:
- "My Ding-a-Ling." Early R&B rocker Chuck Berry had numerous songs that hit number one on the R&B charts, including "Maybelline" and "Johnny B. Goode." But only the novelty tune "My Ding-a-Ling" made it to the very top of the pop charts. With lyrics about "You'd catch me playing with my ding-a-ling," it's hard to argue that this song is a paean to self-pleasuring.
- "Pictures of Lily." Pete Townshend's lyrics don't specifically mention playing with oneself, but he has admitted in interviews that this is the real subject. The Who's recording makes it clear that the pictures of this girl helped the singer sleep at night from the relaxing effects of shooting a load off.
- "Dancing with Myself." Billy Idol could simply be singing about solo dancing - but when he talks about waiting so long for his "love vibration," is there any doubt what the real activity is?
- "Captain Jack." Billy Joel may be an incredibly successful singer-songwriter, but even he had lonely teen-age years when, as he blatantly says, "you just sit at home and masturbate." And why not? A release is a release.
- "Longview." Green Day gained widespread attention with this song, which discusses the amount of masturbating a guy does when he's got nothing better to do.
- "Girls of Porn." One of the raunchiest songs on this list, the Mr. Bungle contribution is all about how a guy can't keep his hands off his junk when he's tempted by pictures of naked women posing suggestively. Not many guys would disagree.
- "Turning Japanese." This incredibly catchy new wave ditty makes the rather insulting and insensitive equation between masturbation and being Japanese. But the nervous energy that runs through the song captures the feeling of a guy manipulating his organ in search of self-satisfaction.
By the way, in case anyone suspects that only male performers sing about self-pleasuring, don't forget Cindy Lauper's "She Bop" (and its message about messing with the danger zone) or the DiVinyls' more blatant "I Touch Myself."
The list of masturbation songs could go on quite a bit longer, with the likes of "The Stroke" by Billy Squier or "Orgasm Addict" by the Buzzcocks. Whatever songs a guy may use to influence his solo outings, he needs to make sure he is using a first-class penis health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) to keep his tool in good health. It's essential that the crème contains a neuroprotective ingredient such as acetyl L-carnitine to help with peripheral nerve damage that may occur from overuse (or over-aggressive use) while masturbating. The best crème will also include vitamin D, which has been proven effective at fighting diseases while enabling cell functionality - a dual function that is vital to penis health.
Senin, 25 September 2017
What She REALLY Wants in Bed: 5 Female Orgasm Secrets Most Men NEVER Learn
Who else is fascinated by the female body, but isn't 100% sure how it works? Or, maybe you know a LOT about her body, but simply aren't sure if what you are doing in bed is WORKING, or not? Does she have a G-spot? Is THAT the secret to making her climax during sex?
What about foreplay? How important is it, and how much is too much? Does penis size matter? And if so... WHY so? And what are the best positions for her orgasm? Is there one that works better than most?
Any of these questions sound familiar?
In this article we are going to take a quick and easy look at some of the sex secrets they don't teach any of us in high school health... but if they cared about happy, healthy sex lives, that they probably should! Curious to know more? Continue reading as we take a closer look below.
Filed Under: Contrary to what you see on "adult" TV, the vast majority of women do NOT find achieving orgasm from conventional intercourse all that easy. Some recent surveys show that up to half of all women find sexual intercourse to be their favorite sexual activity... but one that doesn't lead to climax in most situations.
Why not?
The 2 key elements for her enjoyment are stamina (10 minutes or more is typically required) and size or anatomical compatibility. The majority of a woman's most sensitive sexual nerve endings are either buried deep in her body (beyond the "reach" of most average sized men) or along the wider walls of the inner vagina, also making it difficult to stimulate during ordinary sex. This is also one of the reasons that most sex therapists who understand the REAL challenges women face, will discuss penile "girth" being much more important than length.
2 - Most women CAN achieve orgasm from foreplay. As a matter of fact, just about all women are able to climax on our own, with simple self stimulation techniques any man can learn. (with a little guidance from her!)
3 - There are 2 types of multiple orgasm for women. Serial and sequential orgasm. The vast majority of women can in fact, achieve both. Serial refers to multiple climaxes in one sexual experience, and sequential refers to one immediately after the other.
4 - Can't tell if she's keeping it real in bed? If you want to know if she's faking it or not... her body may give it away! Women have more than 15 unique "tells" that reveal how close she is to orgasm. Many of these are completely involuntary. For example, her pupils may dilate. Her skin temperature will increase subtly, yet enough to notice with your hands. Her respiration will increase, and most women will also perspire as orgasm approaches. A woman faking it may appear quite convincing, but a man who knows what to look for will be able to tell the difference!
5 - Speaking of faking it, most women DO admit to faking it on occasion. (some do on most occasions!) Why? The biggest reason most women admit to pretending in bed, is to not hurt her partners feelings. Many women feel that their lovers mean well, but aren't sufficiently skilled in foreplay. Or, she may simply prioritize YOUR pleasure so much, that faking it will often lead a man to feel more sexually self confident. And most of us can agree, when we feel like the sex is great, the rest of the relationship benefits as well, meaning that faking an orgasm can have lots of benefits OUTSIDE the bedroom for her as well!
The bottom line?
Women DO love to orgasm as much as men. It's just more complicated for us, and more work is required. Learning what really turns HER on is a big step, and believe it or not, communication is key to her climax as well! Asking her what she likes, what she doesn't, and what feels the best during sex is a big turn on for a woman, and that alone can overcome many other size, stamina or skill deficiencies by itself.
What about foreplay? How important is it, and how much is too much? Does penis size matter? And if so... WHY so? And what are the best positions for her orgasm? Is there one that works better than most?
Any of these questions sound familiar?
In this article we are going to take a quick and easy look at some of the sex secrets they don't teach any of us in high school health... but if they cared about happy, healthy sex lives, that they probably should! Curious to know more? Continue reading as we take a closer look below.
Filed Under: Contrary to what you see on "adult" TV, the vast majority of women do NOT find achieving orgasm from conventional intercourse all that easy. Some recent surveys show that up to half of all women find sexual intercourse to be their favorite sexual activity... but one that doesn't lead to climax in most situations.
Why not?
The 2 key elements for her enjoyment are stamina (10 minutes or more is typically required) and size or anatomical compatibility. The majority of a woman's most sensitive sexual nerve endings are either buried deep in her body (beyond the "reach" of most average sized men) or along the wider walls of the inner vagina, also making it difficult to stimulate during ordinary sex. This is also one of the reasons that most sex therapists who understand the REAL challenges women face, will discuss penile "girth" being much more important than length.
2 - Most women CAN achieve orgasm from foreplay. As a matter of fact, just about all women are able to climax on our own, with simple self stimulation techniques any man can learn. (with a little guidance from her!)
3 - There are 2 types of multiple orgasm for women. Serial and sequential orgasm. The vast majority of women can in fact, achieve both. Serial refers to multiple climaxes in one sexual experience, and sequential refers to one immediately after the other.
4 - Can't tell if she's keeping it real in bed? If you want to know if she's faking it or not... her body may give it away! Women have more than 15 unique "tells" that reveal how close she is to orgasm. Many of these are completely involuntary. For example, her pupils may dilate. Her skin temperature will increase subtly, yet enough to notice with your hands. Her respiration will increase, and most women will also perspire as orgasm approaches. A woman faking it may appear quite convincing, but a man who knows what to look for will be able to tell the difference!
5 - Speaking of faking it, most women DO admit to faking it on occasion. (some do on most occasions!) Why? The biggest reason most women admit to pretending in bed, is to not hurt her partners feelings. Many women feel that their lovers mean well, but aren't sufficiently skilled in foreplay. Or, she may simply prioritize YOUR pleasure so much, that faking it will often lead a man to feel more sexually self confident. And most of us can agree, when we feel like the sex is great, the rest of the relationship benefits as well, meaning that faking an orgasm can have lots of benefits OUTSIDE the bedroom for her as well!
The bottom line?
Women DO love to orgasm as much as men. It's just more complicated for us, and more work is required. Learning what really turns HER on is a big step, and believe it or not, communication is key to her climax as well! Asking her what she likes, what she doesn't, and what feels the best during sex is a big turn on for a woman, and that alone can overcome many other size, stamina or skill deficiencies by itself.
Kamis, 14 September 2017
Tantra Is Not About Achieving Orgasm, It Is About Being Centered and in the Moment
Everyone wants to know what it feels like to achieve a full body orgasm but few people understand that the true intention of tantra massage is to attain greater body awareness, mindfulness and a better connection to your own body. How do we learn to let go of our expectations? We learn to let go of our goals by simply focusing on our body. If you can be still and relax in the moment during a tantra healing or a tantra massage your body will feel "safe" and you are then giving your body permission to do what it needs to do to let go and feel blissful.
Bliss can either be attained through a yoga class, meditation, tantra massage or any pleasurable activity that takes you away from your ego or your mind. Yes I know this sounds very esoteric or erudite but tantra massage is so much more important than just a bodily response to pleasure.
It is true that we trigger all our pleasure zones or centers during a teasing tantra massage and light touch can be just as healing as a deep sports tissue massage. Never underestimate that a light, sensual stroke can uplift your spirits and heal your heart center in a way that is far more profound than a Swedish massage. I recommend that if you are to fully appreciate a light touch you let go of all your prior expectations of what you have heard about tantra.
Some people are under the misconception that tantra is just about the sensual pleasure and the art of Eros; but true tantra is a spiritual journey and a real oasis you can return to often anytime you wish to balance out your body's desires to be held sacred and your raw sexual energy. I would not go into a tantra ceremony with a long list of goals but focus on the breath and the results you achieve gradually over a few month's time.
One needs to be patient with their tantra teacher and once you realize that the orgasm is simply a wonderful after effect of the energetic process of sensual awareness you can overcome your sense of fear and your lack of confidence with others.
You approach a tantra massage with an open heart and a willingness to learn more about yourself and your boundaries. If a touch is exceedingly pleasurable this is where you want to stretch out the breath and try and enjoy the sensations without guilt and without judgment. Do not think of having an orgasm. The major goal here is to feel a sense of being out of your body and out of your own mind. Do not think, do not doubt and just let the sensations unfold slowly. When you begin to feel numbness or tingling or warmth that is a good sign that your energy centers are beginning to communicate with each other and your sexual energy is traveling through all the different conduits slowly. Do not be disappointed with yourself if you only feel numbness. Do not worry if nothing seems to be building into the ultimate pinnacle of pleasure.
You should relax and breathe in every sensation allowing the energies to flow where they need to be because energy tends to congregate in those areas of your body that needs the most healing.
Tantra is about renewal, regeneration and being fully present in each moment. We need to be patient with ourselves no matter how much or little we feel during a tantra ceremony. It is important to know that our body's are wise and our body's have an innate knowledge of what we are ready to experience regardless of whether we are able to achieve orgasm or not.
Are you ready to get our of your head space? Are you ready to become more bodily aware and sensitive to the sensuality of authentic tantra touch? There is no expectation during tantra yoga. Orgasm is often a short sighted goal but the true intention of tantra is to awaken dormant energies in your body so you can achieve a heightened sense of arousal each time you are with your partner. We become more sensitive to touch when we learn the art of being in the moment and out of our heads. I want everyone to experience their own energy running through their body. Orgasm is often a pleasant side effect of tantra massage but the sacred act of connecting with someone is far more profound than any bodily function.
Bliss can either be attained through a yoga class, meditation, tantra massage or any pleasurable activity that takes you away from your ego or your mind. Yes I know this sounds very esoteric or erudite but tantra massage is so much more important than just a bodily response to pleasure.
It is true that we trigger all our pleasure zones or centers during a teasing tantra massage and light touch can be just as healing as a deep sports tissue massage. Never underestimate that a light, sensual stroke can uplift your spirits and heal your heart center in a way that is far more profound than a Swedish massage. I recommend that if you are to fully appreciate a light touch you let go of all your prior expectations of what you have heard about tantra.
Some people are under the misconception that tantra is just about the sensual pleasure and the art of Eros; but true tantra is a spiritual journey and a real oasis you can return to often anytime you wish to balance out your body's desires to be held sacred and your raw sexual energy. I would not go into a tantra ceremony with a long list of goals but focus on the breath and the results you achieve gradually over a few month's time.
One needs to be patient with their tantra teacher and once you realize that the orgasm is simply a wonderful after effect of the energetic process of sensual awareness you can overcome your sense of fear and your lack of confidence with others.
You approach a tantra massage with an open heart and a willingness to learn more about yourself and your boundaries. If a touch is exceedingly pleasurable this is where you want to stretch out the breath and try and enjoy the sensations without guilt and without judgment. Do not think of having an orgasm. The major goal here is to feel a sense of being out of your body and out of your own mind. Do not think, do not doubt and just let the sensations unfold slowly. When you begin to feel numbness or tingling or warmth that is a good sign that your energy centers are beginning to communicate with each other and your sexual energy is traveling through all the different conduits slowly. Do not be disappointed with yourself if you only feel numbness. Do not worry if nothing seems to be building into the ultimate pinnacle of pleasure.
You should relax and breathe in every sensation allowing the energies to flow where they need to be because energy tends to congregate in those areas of your body that needs the most healing.
Tantra is about renewal, regeneration and being fully present in each moment. We need to be patient with ourselves no matter how much or little we feel during a tantra ceremony. It is important to know that our body's are wise and our body's have an innate knowledge of what we are ready to experience regardless of whether we are able to achieve orgasm or not.
Are you ready to get our of your head space? Are you ready to become more bodily aware and sensitive to the sensuality of authentic tantra touch? There is no expectation during tantra yoga. Orgasm is often a short sighted goal but the true intention of tantra is to awaken dormant energies in your body so you can achieve a heightened sense of arousal each time you are with your partner. We become more sensitive to touch when we learn the art of being in the moment and out of our heads. I want everyone to experience their own energy running through their body. Orgasm is often a pleasant side effect of tantra massage but the sacred act of connecting with someone is far more profound than any bodily function.
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