Who else is fascinated by the female body, but isn't 100% sure how it works? Or, maybe you know a LOT about her body, but simply aren't sure if what you are doing in bed is WORKING, or not? Does she have a G-spot? Is THAT the secret to making her climax during sex?
What about foreplay? How important is it, and how much is too much? Does penis size matter? And if so... WHY so? And what are the best positions for her orgasm? Is there one that works better than most?
Any of these questions sound familiar?
In this article we are going to take a quick and easy look at some of the sex secrets they don't teach any of us in high school health... but if they cared about happy, healthy sex lives, that they probably should! Curious to know more? Continue reading as we take a closer look below.
Filed Under: Contrary to what you see on "adult" TV, the vast majority of women do NOT find achieving orgasm from conventional intercourse all that easy. Some recent surveys show that up to half of all women find sexual intercourse to be their favorite sexual activity... but one that doesn't lead to climax in most situations.
Why not?
The 2 key elements for her enjoyment are stamina (10 minutes or more is typically required) and size or anatomical compatibility. The majority of a woman's most sensitive sexual nerve endings are either buried deep in her body (beyond the "reach" of most average sized men) or along the wider walls of the inner vagina, also making it difficult to stimulate during ordinary sex. This is also one of the reasons that most sex therapists who understand the REAL challenges women face, will discuss penile "girth" being much more important than length.
2 - Most women CAN achieve orgasm from foreplay. As a matter of fact, just about all women are able to climax on our own, with simple self stimulation techniques any man can learn. (with a little guidance from her!)
3 - There are 2 types of multiple orgasm for women. Serial and sequential orgasm. The vast majority of women can in fact, achieve both. Serial refers to multiple climaxes in one sexual experience, and sequential refers to one immediately after the other.
4 - Can't tell if she's keeping it real in bed? If you want to know if she's faking it or not... her body may give it away! Women have more than 15 unique "tells" that reveal how close she is to orgasm. Many of these are completely involuntary. For example, her pupils may dilate. Her skin temperature will increase subtly, yet enough to notice with your hands. Her respiration will increase, and most women will also perspire as orgasm approaches. A woman faking it may appear quite convincing, but a man who knows what to look for will be able to tell the difference!
5 - Speaking of faking it, most women DO admit to faking it on occasion. (some do on most occasions!) Why? The biggest reason most women admit to pretending in bed, is to not hurt her partners feelings. Many women feel that their lovers mean well, but aren't sufficiently skilled in foreplay. Or, she may simply prioritize YOUR pleasure so much, that faking it will often lead a man to feel more sexually self confident. And most of us can agree, when we feel like the sex is great, the rest of the relationship benefits as well, meaning that faking an orgasm can have lots of benefits OUTSIDE the bedroom for her as well!
The bottom line?
Women DO love to orgasm as much as men. It's just more complicated for us, and more work is required. Learning what really turns HER on is a big step, and believe it or not, communication is key to her climax as well! Asking her what she likes, what she doesn't, and what feels the best during sex is a big turn on for a woman, and that alone can overcome many other size, stamina or skill deficiencies by itself.
Senin, 25 September 2017
Kamis, 14 September 2017
Tantra Is Not About Achieving Orgasm, It Is About Being Centered and in the Moment
Everyone wants to know what it feels like to achieve a full body orgasm but few people understand that the true intention of tantra massage is to attain greater body awareness, mindfulness and a better connection to your own body. How do we learn to let go of our expectations? We learn to let go of our goals by simply focusing on our body. If you can be still and relax in the moment during a tantra healing or a tantra massage your body will feel "safe" and you are then giving your body permission to do what it needs to do to let go and feel blissful.
Bliss can either be attained through a yoga class, meditation, tantra massage or any pleasurable activity that takes you away from your ego or your mind. Yes I know this sounds very esoteric or erudite but tantra massage is so much more important than just a bodily response to pleasure.
It is true that we trigger all our pleasure zones or centers during a teasing tantra massage and light touch can be just as healing as a deep sports tissue massage. Never underestimate that a light, sensual stroke can uplift your spirits and heal your heart center in a way that is far more profound than a Swedish massage. I recommend that if you are to fully appreciate a light touch you let go of all your prior expectations of what you have heard about tantra.
Some people are under the misconception that tantra is just about the sensual pleasure and the art of Eros; but true tantra is a spiritual journey and a real oasis you can return to often anytime you wish to balance out your body's desires to be held sacred and your raw sexual energy. I would not go into a tantra ceremony with a long list of goals but focus on the breath and the results you achieve gradually over a few month's time.
One needs to be patient with their tantra teacher and once you realize that the orgasm is simply a wonderful after effect of the energetic process of sensual awareness you can overcome your sense of fear and your lack of confidence with others.
You approach a tantra massage with an open heart and a willingness to learn more about yourself and your boundaries. If a touch is exceedingly pleasurable this is where you want to stretch out the breath and try and enjoy the sensations without guilt and without judgment. Do not think of having an orgasm. The major goal here is to feel a sense of being out of your body and out of your own mind. Do not think, do not doubt and just let the sensations unfold slowly. When you begin to feel numbness or tingling or warmth that is a good sign that your energy centers are beginning to communicate with each other and your sexual energy is traveling through all the different conduits slowly. Do not be disappointed with yourself if you only feel numbness. Do not worry if nothing seems to be building into the ultimate pinnacle of pleasure.
You should relax and breathe in every sensation allowing the energies to flow where they need to be because energy tends to congregate in those areas of your body that needs the most healing.
Tantra is about renewal, regeneration and being fully present in each moment. We need to be patient with ourselves no matter how much or little we feel during a tantra ceremony. It is important to know that our body's are wise and our body's have an innate knowledge of what we are ready to experience regardless of whether we are able to achieve orgasm or not.
Are you ready to get our of your head space? Are you ready to become more bodily aware and sensitive to the sensuality of authentic tantra touch? There is no expectation during tantra yoga. Orgasm is often a short sighted goal but the true intention of tantra is to awaken dormant energies in your body so you can achieve a heightened sense of arousal each time you are with your partner. We become more sensitive to touch when we learn the art of being in the moment and out of our heads. I want everyone to experience their own energy running through their body. Orgasm is often a pleasant side effect of tantra massage but the sacred act of connecting with someone is far more profound than any bodily function.
Bliss can either be attained through a yoga class, meditation, tantra massage or any pleasurable activity that takes you away from your ego or your mind. Yes I know this sounds very esoteric or erudite but tantra massage is so much more important than just a bodily response to pleasure.
It is true that we trigger all our pleasure zones or centers during a teasing tantra massage and light touch can be just as healing as a deep sports tissue massage. Never underestimate that a light, sensual stroke can uplift your spirits and heal your heart center in a way that is far more profound than a Swedish massage. I recommend that if you are to fully appreciate a light touch you let go of all your prior expectations of what you have heard about tantra.
Some people are under the misconception that tantra is just about the sensual pleasure and the art of Eros; but true tantra is a spiritual journey and a real oasis you can return to often anytime you wish to balance out your body's desires to be held sacred and your raw sexual energy. I would not go into a tantra ceremony with a long list of goals but focus on the breath and the results you achieve gradually over a few month's time.
One needs to be patient with their tantra teacher and once you realize that the orgasm is simply a wonderful after effect of the energetic process of sensual awareness you can overcome your sense of fear and your lack of confidence with others.
You approach a tantra massage with an open heart and a willingness to learn more about yourself and your boundaries. If a touch is exceedingly pleasurable this is where you want to stretch out the breath and try and enjoy the sensations without guilt and without judgment. Do not think of having an orgasm. The major goal here is to feel a sense of being out of your body and out of your own mind. Do not think, do not doubt and just let the sensations unfold slowly. When you begin to feel numbness or tingling or warmth that is a good sign that your energy centers are beginning to communicate with each other and your sexual energy is traveling through all the different conduits slowly. Do not be disappointed with yourself if you only feel numbness. Do not worry if nothing seems to be building into the ultimate pinnacle of pleasure.
You should relax and breathe in every sensation allowing the energies to flow where they need to be because energy tends to congregate in those areas of your body that needs the most healing.
Tantra is about renewal, regeneration and being fully present in each moment. We need to be patient with ourselves no matter how much or little we feel during a tantra ceremony. It is important to know that our body's are wise and our body's have an innate knowledge of what we are ready to experience regardless of whether we are able to achieve orgasm or not.
Are you ready to get our of your head space? Are you ready to become more bodily aware and sensitive to the sensuality of authentic tantra touch? There is no expectation during tantra yoga. Orgasm is often a short sighted goal but the true intention of tantra is to awaken dormant energies in your body so you can achieve a heightened sense of arousal each time you are with your partner. We become more sensitive to touch when we learn the art of being in the moment and out of our heads. I want everyone to experience their own energy running through their body. Orgasm is often a pleasant side effect of tantra massage but the sacred act of connecting with someone is far more profound than any bodily function.
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